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#ThrowBackThursday: Single and Waiting….

I wrote this blog before my current relationship. I am still practicing abstinence and this blog is just a glimpse into my journey while being single.

Matthew 6:33-34 says “Seek the kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need. So, don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today’s trouble is enough for today.”

“I’ve accepted my fate! I am 27, single, no kids, no future!” That is what the enemy wants me to wallow in, but I REFUSE to do that. I am in the best years of my life and I have so much to look forward to. To be over 25 and single is seen as a death sentence in society. I have been in relationships before that left me drained, full of self-doubt, and disappointment. January 1, 2019, I made a promise to myself that I will practice abstinence until I am married. That is NO easy task for someone who’s never practiced that before. I went into this knowing that it will not be by my might but by God’s that I can remain true to this. I’m celebrating 3 years soon in this journey and man can I tell you that I learned so much about myself and others!


Dating while abstinence can seem challenging. With a sober and clear mind, my discernment for those who aren’t serious is keen. My focus has shifted to the Kingdom. Matthew 6:33-34 says “Seek the kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need. So, don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today’s trouble is enough for today.” I wrote this down at the beginning of this journey and it was hard for me to picture the “wait till marriage” part for me. I asked God how and why. He told me day by day and focus on me.


Single and waiting has matured me as a woman to do better for myself and become a better version of myself every day.”

There have been challenges along the way. I am not blind, people look hella good, to entertain a conversation is tempting, and let’s face it...I look good so people’s interest levels are always there lol. On a serious note, my why keeps me grounded and my faith in God to remain faithful in my life through this journey outweighs any temptation that may come my way. Single and waiting has matured me as a woman to do better for myself and become a better version of myself every day.


Have you thought about waiting? Have you ever felt the need to rid yourself of distractions that are keeping you from fully focusing on God? Comment below and let me know your thoughts!